4 types of women who couldn’t care less about marriage and kids
6 May 2015, published by LITTLEROCK.com.mt
Many men seem to believe that every woman's dream is to get hitched and have 2.4 children. It may even extend to the notion that every woman feels that her life is unfulfilled unless there is a man in it plus the prospect of lifelong commitment and a family.
To these men, who most likely experience commitment phobia and relationship anxiety, I have news for you, but you must brace yourself:
Not all women want to say "I do."
There, I said it - now let it sink in.
There are not only many fish in the sea, but many kinds of fish in the sea
Yes, there are still plenty of women for whom marriage and a family are the apex of their happy-ever-after, dream come true, fairy tale. They are the women to whom every romantic encounter translates as a potential husband and, although they may be independent professionals, they do not beat about the bush that, to them, family comes first; in fact, you are likely to find out about it on your first meeting.
But not all little girls loved to wear their mother's heels, push a pram with a doll in it and play "getting married;" many of the little girls who preferred to ride a bicycle, read books and climb trees may very well have grown up to shudder at the very thought of saying "I do."
I know several women who perceive marriage as an obstacle to their personal goals rather than fulfilment of their life's worth, while the prospect of kids feels like a heavy burden that might rip them of their freedom forever. If it has never dawned on you that these women really exist, here's your opportunity to meet them:
The free-spirited adventurer
This woman is full of life and wants to explore everything under the sun. She is usually a little bit crazy, which makes her irresistible in bed. She wants to travel to remote places, try every experience possible and engage in every adrenaline-packed activity she can manage, living life fully as if there was no tomorrow.
This girl is not looking for a husband, but a play mate or partner in crime. She welcomes romance as she is open hearted, but threaten her sense of freedom and she will be gone - she can't have anything or anyone holding her back. She sees traditional relationships as suffocating and kids as a burden; she must vent her passions so the right man for this girl must be ready to accompany her to all corners of the world and through all her crazy adventures.
The career woman
This woman is driven to succeed - she is smart and capable and she knows it. She is probably very well-groomed too, all in the name of presenting herself at her best, which lends her a mesmerizing effect on men. She has her eyes on reaching the very top of her career potential and advancing once there, and nothing is allowed to come in her way.
There is only one true love in this woman's life and that is her sense of self-worth, which comes in the form of personal and professional success. Romance is appealing to her as it is another form of success, however ask this woman for commitment and she will feel that she has enough of that already. She may be ready to have a long-term relationship and kids, but only as long as the husband is ready to take on the role of "house husband" - she will play with the kids when she gets home from work.
The spiritualist
This woman has priorities on the other end of the scale from the career woman - she is concerned with her spiritual life while her "material existence" is secondary to that. Her main concern is spiritual upliftment, and probably practices yoga, meditation, tai chi, zen buddhism and a variety of alternative healing therapies. Her demeanour is pure, open and loving, attracting some men by her apparently naïve virgin appearance.
The spiritualist may be open to romance, but only if the romance has a "spiritual quality" to it. She regards the relationship as another stepping stone or tool for her spiritual growth, but "without attachment" - when the time comes that she feels that the relationship has become mundane and not serving a higher purpose, she will be willing to let it go; her commitment and true loyalty have been determined a long time ago.
The independent woman
This woman has been-there-done-that, got burned one time too many, and thereafter committed to doing it alone. She knows who is the one person who will never let her down: herself. While she may appear happy-go-lucky and know how to have fun, this woman is solely responsible for only herself, and nothing and no one else is allowed to get too close at the risk of disturbing that safe and comfortable place she has created for herself.
The independent woman is in charge of her life and knows how to enjoy it - that includes having a bit of romance and good dose of sex too. But she will not play around and will prefer to choose a steady partner to reduce risks. But mention commitment and she's running, saving herself from the vulnerability that comes from intimacy and the pain of yet another heartache and letdown. She is the perfect woman for a close-friend-with-benefits type of relationship.
So where does this leave you?
Remember that it is best to opt for somebody with a common vision - nobody should compromise their life dreams and ambitions and nobody can be tweaked into your ideal mate.
Then, first of all, you need to figure out what you want out of life. If the mere thought of marriage and kids causes you to have palpitations, you may just be very happy with one of these non-traditional women who are rapidly increasing in numbers.
And how do you know what a girl is looking for? Simple... all you have to do is ask!
To these men, who most likely experience commitment phobia and relationship anxiety, I have news for you, but you must brace yourself:
Not all women want to say "I do."
There, I said it - now let it sink in.
There are not only many fish in the sea, but many kinds of fish in the sea
Yes, there are still plenty of women for whom marriage and a family are the apex of their happy-ever-after, dream come true, fairy tale. They are the women to whom every romantic encounter translates as a potential husband and, although they may be independent professionals, they do not beat about the bush that, to them, family comes first; in fact, you are likely to find out about it on your first meeting.
But not all little girls loved to wear their mother's heels, push a pram with a doll in it and play "getting married;" many of the little girls who preferred to ride a bicycle, read books and climb trees may very well have grown up to shudder at the very thought of saying "I do."
I know several women who perceive marriage as an obstacle to their personal goals rather than fulfilment of their life's worth, while the prospect of kids feels like a heavy burden that might rip them of their freedom forever. If it has never dawned on you that these women really exist, here's your opportunity to meet them:
The free-spirited adventurer
This woman is full of life and wants to explore everything under the sun. She is usually a little bit crazy, which makes her irresistible in bed. She wants to travel to remote places, try every experience possible and engage in every adrenaline-packed activity she can manage, living life fully as if there was no tomorrow.
This girl is not looking for a husband, but a play mate or partner in crime. She welcomes romance as she is open hearted, but threaten her sense of freedom and she will be gone - she can't have anything or anyone holding her back. She sees traditional relationships as suffocating and kids as a burden; she must vent her passions so the right man for this girl must be ready to accompany her to all corners of the world and through all her crazy adventures.
The career woman
This woman is driven to succeed - she is smart and capable and she knows it. She is probably very well-groomed too, all in the name of presenting herself at her best, which lends her a mesmerizing effect on men. She has her eyes on reaching the very top of her career potential and advancing once there, and nothing is allowed to come in her way.
There is only one true love in this woman's life and that is her sense of self-worth, which comes in the form of personal and professional success. Romance is appealing to her as it is another form of success, however ask this woman for commitment and she will feel that she has enough of that already. She may be ready to have a long-term relationship and kids, but only as long as the husband is ready to take on the role of "house husband" - she will play with the kids when she gets home from work.
The spiritualist
This woman has priorities on the other end of the scale from the career woman - she is concerned with her spiritual life while her "material existence" is secondary to that. Her main concern is spiritual upliftment, and probably practices yoga, meditation, tai chi, zen buddhism and a variety of alternative healing therapies. Her demeanour is pure, open and loving, attracting some men by her apparently naïve virgin appearance.
The spiritualist may be open to romance, but only if the romance has a "spiritual quality" to it. She regards the relationship as another stepping stone or tool for her spiritual growth, but "without attachment" - when the time comes that she feels that the relationship has become mundane and not serving a higher purpose, she will be willing to let it go; her commitment and true loyalty have been determined a long time ago.
The independent woman
This woman has been-there-done-that, got burned one time too many, and thereafter committed to doing it alone. She knows who is the one person who will never let her down: herself. While she may appear happy-go-lucky and know how to have fun, this woman is solely responsible for only herself, and nothing and no one else is allowed to get too close at the risk of disturbing that safe and comfortable place she has created for herself.
The independent woman is in charge of her life and knows how to enjoy it - that includes having a bit of romance and good dose of sex too. But she will not play around and will prefer to choose a steady partner to reduce risks. But mention commitment and she's running, saving herself from the vulnerability that comes from intimacy and the pain of yet another heartache and letdown. She is the perfect woman for a close-friend-with-benefits type of relationship.
So where does this leave you?
Remember that it is best to opt for somebody with a common vision - nobody should compromise their life dreams and ambitions and nobody can be tweaked into your ideal mate.
Then, first of all, you need to figure out what you want out of life. If the mere thought of marriage and kids causes you to have palpitations, you may just be very happy with one of these non-traditional women who are rapidly increasing in numbers.
And how do you know what a girl is looking for? Simple... all you have to do is ask!
